To know yourself is the first step to gaining the ability to acknowledge and recognize similar patterns in relationships -- and to avoid them. And controlling behavior on the part of a partner knows no boundaries—people of any age, gender, sexual orientation or socioeconomic status can be in controlling relationships, playing either role.If he’s ever raised his hand on you for the smallest of reasons or uses force to tell you what to do, it’s obvious he belongs to this type.He may love you a lot, but his urge to dominate your life could end up hurting you forever.While those signs are indeed troubling, there are many additional signs that might show up quite differently.Controlling people use a whole arsenal of tools in order to dominate their partners— whether they or their partners realize what's happening or not.For more information, visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.You've been dating the same type of guy or gal for years -- controlling, dominating, manipulative -- and you can't seem to break the pattern.
And almost always, you’ll never really know the difference.
Maybe they complain about how often you talk to your brother on the phone, or say they don't like your best friend and don't think you should hang out with her anymore.
Examining Their Behavior Watching Their Interactions Freeing Yourself From a Controlling Personality Community Q&A Those who try to control other people are, simply put, neither nice nor respectful. They are likely to put the brakes on your leading a fulfilling, independent life if you're in constant close proximity to them.
You’ve tried talking to him about the problems with your relationship. You have a lot of empathy for him and think that with your love he will change, if only you hang in there long enough Now, I don’t know your particular situation and cannot tell you if your boyfriend falls into the abuser category. Educate yourself about emotional or psychological abuse.
Now, editing your thoughts and second-guessing yourself has become second-nature. You’ve become an expert in trying to see the world from his point of view.