We asked these questions (and much racier ones) in our new survey all about married sex.
Close runners up for both men and women are duration (49% of women; 43% of men), foreplay (45% of women; 43% of men), time of day (43% of women; 46% of men) and technique (47% of women; 42% of men). While married sex may be predictable—that doesn't mean couples aren't happy with their under-the-sheets action.
That’s where men and women differ: You have to actually put us in the mood. We want sex to be, well, sexy, not like some third-rate porn production.
You have to make us feel sexy and make us want to be sexual. Just because you can pay to watch a chick with fake boobs and a fake tan fawn all over some hairy, grunting guy doesn’t mean you can treat us like some 30-second money shot. I’m not saying you won’t get those little surprise treats now and then—but you’ve got to work for them.
Guys, believe me when I tell you that this is the biggest sin you can commit when trying to seduce a woman. (And, hey, if it does, you don’t need my advice, right? Neither will groping us in the kitchen while we’re unloading the dishwasher. As guys, you see something sexy and suddenly you’re in the mood for sex, ready to go. If you want us to use our mouths, you have to use yours, too! They’re your children—play with them like you mean it. Remember, a lot of us find nothing sexier than a dad who’s into his kids. Spending 20 minutes connecting with your partner and listening to her talk can help her feel appreciated. is a sexologist and sexuality educator based in Manhattan.
These inept moves don’t get us all hot and bothered — they just upset us. You pick up the mail, there’s a Victoria Secret catalog in the box, and next thing we know you’re sniffing in our direction like a dog expecting a treat. We may see something that’s sexy, and that something may even be you, but we don’t suddenly want to have sex. You have to provide us with the kind of sex we want to have. Avoid stressful topics like your kids, work, and home and stick to larger issues like current events and the world around you. If you can remember and repeat something she said 12 hours later, she’ll be impressed—and you’ll be one step closer to sex. I’ll be answering your questions all week at Good in Bed. Logan frequently appears on television and contributes to many publications.
The only problem is that it's hard for a slightly less attractive woman to find her beauty ...
Here’s my advice for not screwing it up and actually getting some tonight: 1. You’re in the mood, so you reach out and grab us—our breasts, butt, or genitals, that is. Women want to feel connected to our partners—in ways that don’t always involve sex. And by the way, watching your kids isn’t "babysitting". I know, I know: Many of you would probably rather clean that toilet than be forced to "communicate." But I’m not asking for an hours-long heart-to-heart here.
Especially husbands: 80 percent of men reported being very happy or happy with their sex life, compared to 60 percent of women.
Men think we're happier than what we are While 79 percent of men think their wives are happy or very happy with their sex lives, only 60 percent of women say they actually are.
Alicia Florrick is the wife of a former state's attorney for Cook County. After years of being a housewife and mother, she returns to work as a litigator at the law firm Stern, Lockhart & Gardner. Julianna Margulies, Christine Baranski, Zach Grenier, and Mary Beth Peil were all guest stars (on separate episodes) on "Law & Order" during Chris Noth's run on the show.
He has been imprisoned after a sex and corruption scandal. Margulies played a young Naval officer involved in an illicit affair, who was questioned by Noth's Detective Mike Logan.